Understanding Our Children’s Core Nature
1. Every behavior has a positive intention and is a sign of our children’s individuality.
Sometimes children may act strange or out-of-bounds during class only because he or she is simply finding his or her own path. Many parents and teachers have a distorted perception of strange or aggressive behavior. We shouldn’t assume that strange or aggressive behaviors are signs of negativity.
If we teach ourself to approach every behavior as a signal of the child’s individuality and treat it with a positive approach, we’ll be surprised at the result we’ll find. After all, it’s the individuality in every child that makes teaching fun.
2. Failure Is Our Friend.
We need to help kids discover that there is no such thing as failure, only feedback.
As parents and teachers, it is our role to nurture children and help them grow. When children make a mistake it is not a bad thing. Mistakes are how children learn, and if we help our children understand that mistakes don’t mean failure then we’ll improve their overall growth. There is no such thing as failure if we know how to give positive and constructive feedback when necessary.
3. We can’t “not” communicate.
It’s a funny thing when we watch teachers that do not directly connect with the children they are teaching. It is virtually impossible to communicate with a child if we do not know how to connect with them. To improve our parenting and teaching abilities we need to keep in mind that communication is delivered not only by language, but by voice, tone, and posture as well. Every move and every noise we make conveys a message. If we choose the right words, tones, and movements, then our communication abilities and teaching abilities will have an impact.
4. A child’s action does not make a child.
It is natural for parents and/or teachers to feel discouraged towards children that do not behave appropriately. The problem is many teachers put blame on the child as if the child is a menace, yet in reality, it is not the child but the behavior that the child chose that is the real problem. Instead of telling a child “you’re a bad child because you hit her” we can try saying something like “your choice to hit her was not the right choice.”
We can learn how to separate the behavior from the child so that the child does not feel like you think that he/she is a bad person.
5. EVERYONE has the ability to succeed.
When we look at some of the greatest people in history such as Albert Einstein and Thomas Edison, we would never know that both had learning disabilities. The reason why they succeeded is that they both, in spite of their problems, used all of their resources to achieve their dreams.
Being aware of the fact that children can succeed if we simply believe in them will make a world of difference.
If we give our struggling children/students more love and support then, we help them realize they have more potential than they thought.
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Conveniently located in Millbury Massachusetts, our academy provides high quality martial arts training classes to the residents of Millbury, Worcester, Grafton, Shrewsbury, Auburn and surrounding areas, including Sutton, Uxbridge, and Northbridge, Massachusetts.
Life Skill Martial Arts is NOT just another Karate School! We teach Personal Development to children using martial arts as a vehicle. Our goal is to instill the habits and skills of:
Discipline – Belief – Communication –
Respect – Self Esteem – Honesty.