How To Create Connection With Our Children?
One of the most important things that we can do as parents is establish a connection with our children. In fact, children need connection more than anything else.
Here are a few ways that we can begin to build a great connection with our children:
- Make one-on-one connections with our children. Instead of asking a question from across the room, take an extra 15 seconds to walk to your child, get down on their level, maybe tap their shoulder or touch their arm, and ask the question. Chances are they will engage right away (instead of ignoring you) and answer you because you have made that personal connection.
- Connect with our child as many times per day as possible. Every positive connection with our child means fewer disconnected or frustrating moments for both of you.
- Begin positive connections when your child is young. The more positive connections we make early on, the better they will respond and communicate as they get older. Over time they will have a strong enough connection with us that we no longer need to be right in front of them for them to answer our questions.
- Reduce stressful interactions. Good connections reduce stress or cortisol, which is the stress hormone. If we get upset with our child, it makes them upset, too.
- By improving our connections daily, we begin to eliminate some of the obstacles in your communication with them which also eliminates stressful interactions
Boost their Neurotransmitters!
We can “up” our child’s neurotransmitters to build a better parent-child connection, which means improving our relationship with them by giving them positive reinforcements in a variety of ways that will allow them to thrive, feel happy, and be healthy.
- Tell your child about something that is going to happen that is exciting, so they can look forward to it. This improves the neurotransmitter Dopamine which is the anticipation chemical.
- Hug your child and let them know they are important. Oxytocin is the chemical that reacts through touching.
- Give children praise for good behavior or a job well done. This improves Serotonin which is about feeling satisfied.
- Finally, give your child the chance to run and play or engage in a fun physical activity, especially when they are stressed or feel anxiety. Endorphins are engaged through active movement.
The last key bit of advice is to self-assess. How connected you think you are with your child right now? On a scale of 1 to 5 what grade would you give yourself? Put these tips into action and make a better connection with your child because the more you connect, the better.
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