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Millbury Martial Arts kicks butt! They have a great group of people there, with an awesome school culture. It's a really fun place to learn martial arts at any level, and improve your skillz!

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Millbury martial arts has significantly impacted my life for more then 20 years. As a child I was shy and had low self esteem. Through the training at Millbury martial arts, I became a strong self confident person who is able to pursue my dream of a graduate degree.

Pamella Saffer reviewed Life Skill Martial Arts
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This school offers a wide range of martial arts for children and adults taught by instructors who are dedicated to their art and who are continually expanding their teaching methods and personal skill levels. They have a depth of knowledge and are open to sharing. The atmosphere is supportive and students are respectful and helpful of each other regardless of skill level or age. You compete only with yourself!

Jocelyn Gail Higgins reviewed Life Skill Martial Arts
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My four year old son is thoroughly embracing his training. He is eager to participate in class. I really enjoy that us parents are encouraged to get right on the floor with our kids as well.

Fred Basantes reviewed Life Skill Martial Arts
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I have been going to the school since 2009. Words can't describe the changes that I have seen in my self, not only physically but mentally. Thank you to everyone at life skill because it's just as much the people that go there that makes it great as it is the classes that are taught.

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It has been said that the true science of martial arts means practicing them in such a way that they will be useful at anytime, and to teach them in a way that they will be useful in all things. I have found this at Life Skills Martial Arts. The life skills learned are invaluable in becoming a true martial artist not just another fighter who practices martial arts.

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Words can't describe this school. The instructors are knowledgable in everything they do. Master Tabor makes you feel like you belong. Not to mention the instructors Mr. Keenan, Mr. Moy and Mr. Morin. I have learned so much in each class I trained in, kungfu, taiji and self defense. The school has so much pride and you can just tell from the atmosphere and how the school looks. The koi pond and the garden you can train in just makes you in awe and feel good about yourself! This is awesome place to train. My only disappointment is that I never found the school earlier. Real authentic Taiji, kung-fu and self-defense!!!!

Aisha Yousaf reviewed Life Skill Martial Arts
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Its been many years since i attended classes here. My experience i am happy to say, was life changing. I have learned so much more than self defense and discipline from this school. Being a part of this family gave me the strength to overcome many obstacles in life. The instructors have so much to offer and they give endless support. I made some amazing friends here too. Even though it has been such a long time since my last trip to the school, i find my thoughts always returning to it. It has been a very big part in my life. I am very grateful for my time, and am planning on coming back with my two children once they are old enough to take lessons!

Louis Garcia reviewed Life Skill Martial Arts
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Our children started the program first back in July and my wife and I subsequently began taking classes in late August....what a positive impact it has had on our health and well-being! Our son and daughter are learning far more than a martial art rich in history and traditions... they are learning skills that they use each and every day. My wife and I have become healthier in mind, body, and spirit. The camaraderie with our fellow students is a bond that is as strong as community and those relationships transcend the studio.
The benefits in health and happiness alone are worth giving Life Skills Martial Arts a try.

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Our 4 year old has been attending for 9 months now and he has a blast! What we love the most is the positive atmosphere. There is not a competition with anyone but yourself. Parents cheer on each other’s children and the students of the class encourage and support one another. It is a beautiful thing and we are so happy our son is a part of it! The instructors are very supportive and the life skills that they teach are fantastic. Our son has gained more confidence and has so much fun. We are very happy we chose Life Skills Martial Arts for our son and highly recommend it!

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Going to Life Skills Martial Arts will always be one of the best decisions i ever made. It has helped me to not only learn how to defend myself and my family if it came down to that but it has helped me to go way outside my comfort level to do things i never thought in a million years i would do. I have severe social anxiety and usually never liked being in large groups, being a leader, or even not taking my self seriously when i screwed something up. But when i go to class, i feel like i am with family and i can do all those things without any anxiety. well maybe a little :).

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One of the best decisions for my son was to sign him up here. He's become healthier, gained more confidence, learned respect and self esteem. This was originally a Christmas present and now my 10 year old says he's "committed to becoming a black belt" and would like this again for Christmas instead of a bunch of"stuff". After a year (actually within a month), I realized the monthly cost isn't just for kung fu training. It's truly training him"life skills" that he can use in every aspect of life for a lifetime and that is priceless.

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Whole-Brain Parenting: Engaging the Brain for Optimal Development

On any given day, we may experience moments of high emotion in reaction to an event, or we find ourselves trying to control everyone and everything around us. Either way, our mental well-being is in danger, especially if we find ourselves stuck in either scenario for long. It can be difficult for children to get unstuck without some help from a parent or other adult. To give children the support they need when faced with this, parents must have a basic understanding of their child’s brain development. By incorporating this knowledge into interactions, parents can support children in learning and growing through a whole-brain approach.

To help us get a clear understanding of how these two extreme reactions can present in children,” Dr. Daniel Siegel and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson created the concept of the “river of well-being” in the book “The Whole-Brain Child.”

Along the river of well-being, there are two banks:

A. The “Bank of Chaos” located in the right brain, and

B. The “Bank of Rigidity” located in the left brain.

The Bank of Chaos focuses on emotions rather than the content of an event. This side also receives input from the primitive “downstairs brain,” which, combined, creates strong feelings related to experiences and relationships.

The waves of these intense emotions can lead to feeling overwhelmed or out of control. Up to about the age of 3 years old, children are primarily functioning from the right side of their brain. Due to their lack of language development, getting stuck on the “bank of chaos” can often happen. As children get older, they can better express themselves; however, the underdevelopment of the logical, “upstairs brain” still makes it difficult for them to avoid getting stuck on the right side.

On the left side of the “river of well-being” is the “Bank of Rigidity.” This side is very literal and creates structure in our minds. When children start asking “why,” parents will know the “left brain” has begun to respond. And while this integration is good, children that become emotionally overwhelmed can find themselves stuck on this bank where they become too literal and lose view of the whole picture. They will then avoid the strong feelings and end up in an “emotional desert.” When this happens, children will appear distant and say things such as “I don’t care” because they only hear the words and ignore non-verbal cues. This response makes them less willing to cooperate.

When children get stuck on either side of the river of well-being, parents must be attuned and respond accordingly. The LIFE SKILL Child Development approach helps parents implement the best tactic when faced with this. By applying the Parent SKILLZ techniques, parents connect with their children, are patient in responding, and nurture appropriate responses. Since during an emotional flood is not the time to insert logic, parents should “connect to the right” by validating their child’s emotions and helping them calm down. Once the child is more relaxed, then parents can “redirect to the left” and help the child brainstorm more logical reactions.

By promoting horizontal integration between the right and left sides of the brain, parents can create a more harmonious arrangement from which children can learn and grow. Understanding that the brain is influenced by the way we parent can help create opportunities for more vital brain coordination. This leads to healthier brain development and fosters a strong parent-child bond and leads to happier children.

To learn more about the powerful Life Skill Child Development Program that uses elements of martial arts training as the vehicle for growth, or to get your child started at our Millbury location, click the button below:

 

Stan Tabor is a 6th-degree black belt and has been teaching children since 1986. He’s the founder of the Life Skill curriculum and his goal is to build a future for the next generation of the Life Skill Instructors to use martial arts as a vehicle to teach life skills that develop children physically, mentally, emotionally and socially.